The blessing of time (with maybe some bereavement counseling & medication) is that the raw pain of losing our husbands lessens. Sure, we don't forget them, but we eventually think of them in states of calmness and happiness. We eventually reach a point where we accept their deaths as maybe good for them in terms of ending unreasonable suffering. This is not betrayal of our loved ones. This is healing that they would want for us. It is necessary for us to be able to parent our children and provide healthy memories of their lost fathers. Children need to process the deaths of their fathers with the understanding that their fathers loved them, their fathers did not willingly leave them, and that their fathers want them to live healthy & productive lives to ensure that the family continues. According to what I saw on the OWN Channel, our widowed sister, Jill Price, has a special memory. She is gifted and cursed with a mind that keeps ALL memories fresh (both the happy and the sad). No distance for her and her pain of loss. I don't know how she does it.
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